Robert’s Experience: Irritability and mood swings replaced with peace
Robert (38)
The last four to five years have been stressful: moving, new responsibilities, significantly higher monthly expenses, expanding family, and less time for myself. Partly as a result, I became overly irritable.
By nature, I have always been someone who lets things flow freely and uses opportunities as needed to make everything work smoothly. In the process, I also gave emotions more freedom to dictate my energy, the scope of my actions, and the speed at which I moved toward my goals.
During a particularly stressful and demanding time, I became more easily irritable, experienced emotionally driven injustices toward family and loved ones, and unintentionally created a tense atmosphere.
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The irritability deepened, and sometimes even bouts of anger arose. However, these emotions were not new to me, they could easily surface and dominate for an hour or more. They always remained within me, and I didn’t act them out on others, but internally they gnawed and burned intensely until they finally subsided.
Throughout my life, I have experienced periods of strong mood swings, sometimes short, sometimes longer. Long-term sadness, possibly depression. This was accompanied by very low energy and the ability, or even the desire, to give anything to others.
For a long time, I had been searching for a solution to these mood swings and emotional fluctuations, and in this context, I had tried various therapies, devices, supplements, ceremonies, and the like. I had not yet found a sufficiently lasting and effective solution.
I heard about MER Biofeedback® therapy about eight months before I went to my first session. Close ones who had been there praised the therapists and the effectiveness of the therapy, but when I questioned them about the method, its mechanism remained unclear to me, which is why I initially maintained a skeptical attitude.
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Family members gifted me a Lifekeskus gift card for my birthday, valid for six months. I booked my first session only when the card’s validity was nearing its end.
Despite my skepticism, I secretly held hope that perhaps biofeedback therapy would finally bring more ease to my daily life.
I remember that before the session, I had drunk coffee, which at that time had a particularly stimulating effect and brought a slight sense of anxiety. The therapist immediately started a calming frequency at the beginning of the session, which completely eliminated the negative self-feeling from the coffee. I almost fell asleep afterward, barely able to stay awake. This was the first clear sign for me that, despite not understanding the method before the session, it definitely works, at least in some aspects.
I also really liked that the therapist explained in detail during the first session how biofeedback and the machine work and answered all my questions. I left with a significantly better understanding and more hopeful about the future.
By the time of the second session, a month had passed since the first. I felt a slight improvement in some areas after both sessions, but nothing groundbreaking. However, I had gained understanding and some positive experience, which motivated me to continue with hope.
True to my nature, after the second session, I found myself wondering why I was wasting time, waiting a whole month between each session when the small benefit was clearly noticeable. I booked three sessions for the next month, each about 10 days apart. I felt that a significant breakthrough came at the end of the second month after the fifth session, which could be characterized by a notable sense of inner ease.
I continued visiting Lifekeskus first every 2-3 weeks until the tenth meeting, after which I went once a month. I still notice after each session sometimes larger, sometimes smaller improvements. The most important and groundbreaking for me has been that since starting regular visits, my emotions have been almost completely balanced; there have been no extreme negative feelings like irritability, intense anger, depression, or anxiety. All negativity has moved from the far back to quite the center, and thanks to this, positive feelings like joy, happiness, and motivation have been able to express themselves more strongly.
I feel that one session a month, which I am committed to, helps me each time to return strongly to my center, find peace and focus, through which I can better distribute my energy in daily life.
I feel that one session a month, which I am committed to, helps me each time to return strongly to my center, find peace and focus, through which I can better distribute my energy in daily life.
I call this monthly cleaning—we open the closet doors, take out the wrinkled and worn clothes, wash and iron them, and fold and hang them neatly back, to welcome and go through the new month with a pleasant flow and being.
Based on my experience, I say this: MER Biofeedback® therapy can help most people significantly smooth out the most disturbing and nagging emotions, habits, and the like, but it is not concrete that hardens and retains its shape after smoothing. Rather, it is like strong wet sand found where the sea ends and the land begins. You can walk on it without leaving deep footprints, but driving a bulldozer over it can quickly and deeply damage the surface. The waves will smooth it out over time, but why choose a bulldozer when you can walk at the same pace without damaging the surface? The beach sand symbolizes inner peace, moving forward on it in daily life, and the smoothing waves represent biofeedback therapy.
Lifekeskus’s service has allowed me to eliminate the biggest bulldozers from my life—stronger and more disturbing emotions like irritability and behavioral patterns that were wrongly learned and stuck, as well as more toxic and non-serving relationships and environments that gave nothing, only took. This is my recommendation to others—get to a good enough place with biofeedback therapy to start eliminating all the negative and stagnating things from your life and move toward your happiness.
Throughout all these months, what I have thought and planned has not gone quickly, perfectly, or without slipping, but fortunately, Lifekeskus’s smoothing waves have smoothed and polished the wrinkles every month, allowing me to move forward gradually but consistently with progress. I recommend everyone who relates to approach this journey similarly.
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Therapist
Angelika Randjärv
As a therapist, it has been a joy and enriching experience to be Robert’s companion in the therapy process.
In the flow and effectiveness of our collaboration, Robert’s openness and courage to look at his shadow sides have played a significant role.
There have been lighter and more challenging periods, but he has not let the latter discourage him.
Robert is a very determined and results-oriented man, and he is willing to take concrete practical steps that have helped him reach the desired sense of self.
For each therapy session, Robert comes with a precise analysis of what he has experienced emotionally in the meantime and how he has perceived and, if necessary, reframed various feelings.
As a result, he is undoubtedly an excellent inspirer and an incomparable conversation partner.