Both grief and sadness disappeared with the help of therapy
Kristel (29)
When I was 28, my mother passed away. She was a perfectly healthy 48-year-old when she was diagnosed with a tumour, and three months later, she was gone. Grief was something entirely new to me, as I had never lost someone close before. I had a very close relationship with my mother, and her death was a tremendous shock.
The impact didn’t hit me immediately. About a month or two after my mother’s death, I began having sudden bouts of crying, and it wasn’t until nine months after she passed that I completely broke down. I developed severe health anxiety, panicking about potential illnesses. If my leg hurt, I immediately assumed the worst. Worried about my health, I visited a family doctor, who diagnosed me with anxiety disorders and depression.
Grief overwhelmed me when I was alone at home. I would lie in bed, crying, with the rooms left uncleaned. Everything made me cry.
I have always been very sensitive, but my mother knew how to calm me down. She was my support. Now, I couldn’t manage on my own. At work, I couldn’t concentrate or think clearly. I had obsessive thoughts, my heart would pound, and anxiety dominated my life. Once, out of the blue, I developed extreme shortness of breath and dizziness, which even led to a visit to the emergency department. It was an absolutely unreal feeling!
I learned about MER Biofeedback therapy from an acquaintance.
I reached out to them at my lowest point, about nine months after my mother died. I remember the first therapy session very well because, for the first time in my life, my mind was empty of thoughts. I had never experienced this before! Previously, I felt like I had a burden on my heart, but that evening after therapy, I already felt a sense of relief. I noticed that I was calmer and observed that others’ irritations over small things seemed insignificant to me.
My third therapy session was on the anniversary of my mother’s death. A few months earlier, every little thought could make me cry, but now I felt secure, and the anniversary felt like any other ordinary day. I no longer felt overwhelming sadness, instead, I was grateful for the time I had with my mother. She was important to me, but now she’s gone, and that’s part of life. I have come to terms with her death and now know that I can manage on my own.
During therapy, I have also become more aware of other significant events in my life that have affected me, and I can now address them. Grief is no longer a pressing issue for me, and my anxiety has subsided. I can monitor my thoughts and calm myself down.
I recommend MER Biofeedback therapy to anyone who has lost a loved one.
Why live with pain for years when it can be alleviated? My entire outlook has completely changed thanks to biofeedback therapy. In just a few months, I emerged from deep sadness and was able to let go of the heaviness I felt. I know I couldn’t have done it without this support. I encourage everyone to explore the world of mental health more openly and not be ashamed to seek help during difficult times.